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When a man really likes and desires a woman who is his friend; it is not easy to separate his intimate desires for a deeper connection from the required platonic expressions. Most often he wants to transition from platonic to intimate. Interacting with her in person on dates or family dinners are dangerous for him because he is bound to get hurt due to the increase in expectations that will emerge through such events of physical interaction. While on the other hand she is not sharing anything similar emotionally, not even remotely. He can control his feelings when around her in order to not make the moment feel awkward but his mind -imagination will be journeying to places with her which their reality will never replicate. The main problem is, his heart will grow more affectionate and loving towards her while she does not reciprocate or cannot do so, due to her commitment to someone else, or her fear of destroying a valued friendship.

This can create great turmoil for him more than her. For he may suspend involvement with other females, denying himself of potential love. He will most often end up wasting time waiting on an opportunity with her. While she enjoys her relationship with someone else, and strings him along unintentionally in the friendship. He waits on the sidelines like the substitute who never gets to play on her field. When this reality hits home, it has a devastating impact. It can even throw him into a depressing state of mind.

Waiting in such situations are most often not emotionally healthy. Thinking that patience is a virtue trying to convince yourself that time will bring you together is being delusional. A woman will love you while loving her partner. But she will not leave him just for love. A woman’s commitment goes beyond simple rationale or reason. She takes her word seriously because when she gives, it usually is in a wholehearted way. If she is in something, she is in all the way. All other exits are closed and no foot is left outside. She is loyally and unequivocally committed until she is given reason to doubt or break her commitment by some negative action exhibited by her partner.

A man on the other hand fears losing his woman or having to suffer her wrath.  Therefore he tends to keep another woman alongside her. The silence of a woman is tormenting. It can quickly have a man feeling alone and his position in her life seriously threatened. The fear of loss quickly floods a man minds when his woman is silent; even when she is only a friend he suffers great discomfort. Silence prolonged by a woman can cause trauma to a man’s heart, he becomes weakened and insecure. His soul will yearn as the desert thirsts for water; just to hear her loving voice. If only women knew the softness of a man’s heart, they would avoid issuing the punishing torment of silence. But the trend will continue and men will keep hiding their hearts for fear of pain and abandonment.

It’s never a good idea to expose your vulnerability to a woman. Doing so often times increases your level of attraction for her. Though she may only be a friend; a certain expectation emerges which leads to the anticipation of a more intimate relationship. This you will find is more so for men than it is for women. Because a man rarely exposes himself like that, and upon doing so he will feel the need to bond closer with the female. However females on the other hand are usually expressing themselves in this way very often and it is a regular thing. Their expression of their vulnerability does not equate to a desire for intimacy nor bonding. It just means they trust you with the information. Too often us men feel the need to be intimate with a woman who has opened up to us. Not every woman who exposes her vulnerability should be pursued for a relationship. Friendships are strengthened by this interaction but it is also threatened, due to the possible transition to intimacy. Which often times never happens. Though difficult to admit, and even more so to carry out is being platonic with a female you are attracted to who expresses herself to you openly. Great caution should be taken If it’s agreed upon by both parties to travel the route of intimacy. The failure of which can destroy a valuable friendship. Yet it’s success could lead to a lifetime relationship of love epitomized.

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……#just clearing my head