One needs to strike a balance between the result of what is desired and the source from which that result is produced.
How often do we see relationships that start off well with good and open communication which lead to sex. Then sex became the center of the relationship. This focus on sex (the result) has replaced the open communication (source) which then leads to the relationship deteriorating and losing its appeal. When all efforts are kept on focusing on the end ‘results’, the relationship will eventually suffer and die a premature death. The “who’s to blame” game is then started and we move on to the next relationship not having resolved the real issue; which then translates into the same mistake being repeated.
We’ve heard many times that we are to find balance in life. We can’t expect to work our bodies consistently without taking the time to rest and feed ourselves. It’s possible for a short time but this only results in a our bodies becoming weaker. Which then shortens our compactor to do anything. While on the other hand if we were to feed our bodies to much and rest too much we easily become overweight, unhealthy and then losing the capacity to earn enough to feed ourselves. One heart attack can render us incapacitated which depletes all our financial resources and puts a strain on our loved ones. The results that we desire and the capacity that creates that result are both important.
We desire great ideal relationships, big goals and perfect health and fitness. However if we only focused on getting these results and neglect the tools, resources, disciplines and relationships that can get us to achieve them; they will elude us. Too often we burn ourselves out to get the money and lose our health. We then spend all that we earn attempting to regain what we would have had if we had simply maintained it by creating a balance. There are parents who pay so much attention to their children during their formative years that they neglect their spouse and then after the children are gone, they end up living in a house with a stranger. Relationship don’t die over night. They deteriorate over time when we neglect doing the things that got us to where we are. Don’t try to be either / or. Some parents either choose to be a disciplinarian that insists the child do as they are told; or they choose to be permissive and try being the child’s friend by giving in to all their requests. But neither are very effective. A balance between the two will help a child to develop in understanding boundaries, values and wisdom. I’m not saying that this is the only situation that creates those attributes. But balancing is key.
Balance is also needed on self. Many of us spent time developing ourselves, exercising, reading and studying; which in turn brought us greater and deeper friendships. But then we start focusing so much on the friendships and forgot about the things we once did for ourselves and then become dissatisfied and unhappy with our friendships where we start blaming the other person. When in fact the person to blame is reflected in the mirror. Balance is required in life. Nature is the perfect example. The earth in its natural state, unaltered by humans will forever flourish and grow. Because nothing in nature over indulges in any one area (as far as I know). The sun cannot shine 24 hours. It gives way to the moon and the stars. Nature wakes and sleeps in a pattern that is never deviated. The seasons follow each other like clock work and this creates balance. Every animal only consumes what it needs. Nothing in nature would become extinct if we operated with the principles of nature. Nature flourishes in balance. Nature is in harmony with its self.
So as humans we ought to understand that if we are to flourish we need to find the balance in our lives. A healthy relationship has two people engaged in productive conversation as well as idling and the occasional jokes as well. There are a few arguments which are worked towards being resolved and their are moments when things are so perfect it feels surreal. The different dynamics help to create the balance. If everything was perfect things would quickly become boring. I won’t divert too much into relationships because I’m no expert.
We could literally change our lives if we all grasped the fundamentals of striking a balance in all the key areas of our lives. Let’s not forget our spiritual relationship. Let’s not be so physical focused and short sighted that we believe we created ourselves and life just happens. Yet we should avoid being too spiritual we are of no earthly good. Again, balance. Find the balance in your life. Every product requires that you service it, in order for its life span to be extended. A knife becomes very dull after continued use without been serviced (sharpened). A car starts breaking down regularly without periodic servicing. A relationship quickly deteriorates without acts of service that creates it. A job quickly becomes a routine without the effort of taking care of ourselves. Employees quickly become disloyal and neglectful when all management focuses on, is the “bottom line”. Maintenance is important. Balance is a requirement for effectiveness. It’s simple yet difficult. It is a simple adjustment but produces powerful results. It will require making hard decision at times, but the payoff will be much greater.
Our goals are important but we should also enjoy the journey. Work balance into your life and watch your life transform.
RCWEALTH 