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“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result” – Albert Einstein

Some people are just contentious by nature. They cannot seem to communicate without shouting or starting an argument. It is as if they will not be happy if the day progresses without having an argument. They seem to thrive on the fact that everyone else is their children and they can speak to them in any manner. Such people makes any environment very toxic. The stench of hypocrisy and betrayal is often high due to the fact that contentious persons frequently change their word. They are incapable of giving compliments yet very explicit in executing negative criticism. How does one thrive/grow in such an environment, having to encounter and deal with the Gramazone characteristics of such persons?  What is the antidote for such poison?

The reality is that life is perfect. But the people living it are highly flawed and by nature destructive, negative and selfish. The issues get complicated when the “flawed” accept their behaviour as right, normal and perfect. It is not so much arrogance that should be blamed; rather ignorance. Ignorance of their own emotional intelligence, especially their inability to empathize with others. With this in mind we must understand that offences will happen. No matter how nice we decide to be, or how loving and gracious we act towards others, following the commands of the good book (Bible), or how saved or righteous we think we are….people are still gonna hurt us. It is the inevitable pain of life that we all have experienced and will continue to do so, once the breath of life circulates through our bodies and we are dealing with others.
While others choose to be ignorant and often times arrogant(ego driven) tearing down anyone in their path without apology. The responsibility of the emotionally intelligent who desires to grow in character and not just financially or academically, must recognize the child in these grown individuals and follow the command of Jesus by forgiving continuously. Its very hard when one has been offended and the offender views their actions as normal and without error. But….the responsibility of moving on and growing is ours, irrespective of the offenders recognition of their actions. The heart needs to be pure for joy to be experienced continuously, and the contaminants and clogs of unforgiveness will affect such flow. Jim Rohn said – “It’s not what happens to us that matters, It is what we do about what happens.” So we must forgive and just let it go. Forgetting an offence may never happen but letting it go is most important. 

Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.

When we hold on to hurt, unforgiveness will only make us become bitter and  more cynical. Unforgiveness will make happiness and joy seem elusive. The negative emotions that festers due to unforgiveness will have a physical effect on our body – damaging organs, affecting our moods and keeping us in a hypnotic state of negativity. The best thing to remember in dealing with forgiveness is that God continues to forgive us every time we hurt him. Every Time! Therefore we must make an effort to forgive others with the same grace and mercy offered to us. It is also good to remember that it is most often our perspective view on a situation that increases the intensity of an offence. Think objectively.

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.

….to be continued